In light of my recent frustration with the online dating, and perhaps my own attitudes about all of this, I've made a decision. I'm going to let the dating go for a bit. I know I've said this before, but how I've been feeling lately suggests to me that for my own health, I need to let this go.
I know that dating is generally a frustrating process, but I guess I somehow expected it would be better than it has been. You guys have seen the menfolk I've been dealing with (MasterPice, The Nose Picker, Your Mom Got Raped???), and I think we should all be impressed I've lasted this long.
My most recent run-in, Mr. Boogers, makes me think that perhaps it's time to just stop for a bit. I took this approach to drinking after getting sick from Mike's Hard Lemonade. The sign doesn't always have to be neon and flashing for me to see that it's time to stop.
So, my plan is to stop dating until I'm 30. That's about a year and a half from now. When I first selected that point, I thought, "NO! NOT 30!! You'll be too old!!" But seriously, 30 is NOT old. I also think that it's been because I've had this idea in my head about when things need to happen that this experience has been just so awful for me.
I've already hidden/disabled my profiles on the dating sites I use. I won't be attending any speed dating events (though I doubt I planned on doing that again anyway, given how craptastic they were.) I haven't met anyone in my everyday life to date since college, so I doubt that's much of an issue. (In a way, that makes me incredibly sad.)
Having said all of that, I'm not stupid enough to say there won't be exceptions to this. Should I meet some incredible man, and he wants to date me, I won't turn him down. I realize that opportunities like that are rare, and I won't waste it. Based on my history though, it seems unlikely that will happen.
This gives me a chance to sort of figure out what I want to do with my life without thinking about some event that may or may not happen (meeting Mr. Lyndsy), and planning around that. I'll spend the time focusing on me and making MY life the way I want it to be. I anticipate that this will be more challenging than it sounds.
Even I'm going to miss these stories!
2 comments:
Indeed. 30 is NOT old. And the old cliche of finding the right one when you stop actively searching really is true.
*hugs*
I think that's a good idea. It sounds very positive and you-health oriented!
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